With the recent suspected suicide of Robin Williams a limelight has been shone on what could have led him to do this. Which has brought attention to depression, and how without help it mentally chips away at those who suffer from it.
It’s a shame it takes the death of someone in Hollywood to draw attention to a disease in which hundreds of millions of people suffer from.
It can make you feel isolated and alone, forcing you to wear a mask. A brave face to show the world unable to share the pain that is really being felt.
There seem to be many comedians who suffer from depression themselves. Perhaps that’s because those who battle depression experience a flat affect, no emotional responses to situations or experiences. Seeing that they can make others experience joy and laughter gives them purpose. However, at the end of the day if you don’t have love for yourself the love of others means nothing.
If you are suffering from depression, get help. Although you feel alone in the darkness, you don’t have to be. Those feelings are a symptom of the disease. I had done a previous post with a focus on talking to someone when you are feeling down, you can read that here. It’s never too late to reach out, to ask for help, it could save your life.
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” -Laurell K. Hamilton
When was the last time you said how you really feel?
Myself and my friend Sinead Lynch at Silver Linings have made a video looking at how the Irish and Canadians can avoid their real feelings.
Although we attempt, (please excuse my exaggerated Canadian accent) to use humour to highlight how we all can cover our true feelings. I do believe it is important to talk to someone when you are having a hard time. Life is not always easy, for many people it can seem like everyday is an uphill struggle. Sharing your internal strife with another person can sometimes help lighten the load.
And remember that animals this cute exist. That can help too.
There’s always time to talk.
“What does your anxiety do? It does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but it empties today of its strength. It does not make you escape the evil; it makes you unfit to cope with it if it comes.” – Raymond Cramer
Depression has a way of entering a life and taking over. It affects motivation, eating and sleeping habits, sexual drive, concentration as well as many other things. It not only affects those who suffer from it but the people that surround them. Most of us can feel helpless in it’s presence, here’s a great representation of what it can do:
The difficulty with many mental health issues is the shame that is attached. Many people are afraid to be open and honest about how they are feeling. Carrying the weight of depression is difficult, carrying it on your own is almost impossible. The charity Aware here in Ireland has a campaign to stop the silence, called It’s Time To Talk. The goal is to show how important it is to have real and meaningful conversations about mental health.
Myself and my friend Sinead Lynch at Silver Linings wanted to add to the conversation. We decided to do a short video on ‘What is Therapy’.
The reason most people don’t start therapy is because they are scared about the experience, worried about what will be uncovered. I’m not going to lie and say that therapy is easy, it’s not. It can be very difficult but it can also be a life changing experience. Uncovering the past hurt and working through it, in a safe environment built on trust, is very healing.
If you have decided that you can’t keep going the way you have been, or feel like you don’t want to do this on your own.. Get help, life doesn’t have to be this hard. You are not admitting defeat, you are admitting that some things are not meant to be done alone.
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” – Laurell K. Hamilton