Therapy

Interested in starting psychotherapy?

As a therapist I have the incredible honour of being able to get a glimpse into the lives of others. Usually during the first session clients are nervous, unsure of what to expect. Over time as they open up we are able to build trust and establish a relationship. At its core, this is what therapy is all about. Having a non-judgemental, empathetic listener is incredibly healing.

I often get asked about therapy and counselling wondering about the process. I thought it may be helpful to explain some things. If after reading this you have any additional questions feel free to leave comment or message me.

What’s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy?  The main difference is length of time. Often people start counselling because they have recently been bereaved, they are depressed, feeling anxious or have one issue they want to work through. Psychotherapy is more long term, perhaps after you have started working through one thing you realise there are more aspects of your life you want to understand.

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How long are sessions and how much does it cost? Sessions are usually 50 minutes and here in Ireland if you want to go private, on average a session will cost €60. However, there are many centres that offer low cost services or individuals like myself that offer a sliding scale.

Do I have to talk about my past? I believe to understand the present we need to understand the past. However, you don’t have to share anything that you are not comfortable with. The entirety of your life and past hurts has lead to the perception you have of the world. In some cases that perception is negative or unfairly judgemental of ourself and others. Therapy and objectively examining our past can help demonstrate when patterns began and allow you to have compassion for your struggles.

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What will be different? You. What is so interesting about therapy is that as time goes on you will start to feel different in yourself. Hopefully the end result is that you will feel more grounded, confident and secure in who you are. You may also notice a difference in your reactions and interactions with friends and family. As you feel better in yourself you have less of a reason to lash out which can benefit everyone.

Should I start therapy? I believe everyone could benefit from having a good listener in their lives. If you feel like there are aspects of your life that you want to change counselling or therapy could be great for you. We can get into patterns that are no longer benefitting us, sometimes we need support to change.

I have seen the amazing transformations that can happen thanks to psychotherapy. You can be happy in your life, you just have to decide you want things to be different and start making that happen.

“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.” – Shannon L. Alder

It’s Time To Talk

Depression has a way of entering a life and taking over. It affects motivation, eating and sleeping habits, sexual drive, concentration as well as many other things. It not only affects those who suffer from it but the people that surround them. Most of us can feel helpless in it’s presence, here’s a great representation of what it can do:

The difficulty with many mental health issues is the shame that is attached. Many people are afraid to be open and honest about how they are feeling. Carrying the weight of depression is difficult, carrying it on your own is almost impossible. The charity Aware here in Ireland has a campaign to stop the silence, called It’s Time To Talk. The goal is to show how important it is to have real and meaningful conversations about mental health.

Myself and my friend Sinead Lynch at Silver Linings wanted to add to the conversation. We decided to do a short video on ‘What is Therapy’.

The reason most people don’t start therapy is because they are scared about the experience, worried about what will be uncovered. I’m not going to lie and say that therapy is easy, it’s not. It can be very difficult but it can also be a life changing experience. Uncovering the past hurt and working through it, in a safe environment built on trust, is very healing.

If you have decided that you can’t keep going the way you have been, or feel like you don’t want to do this on your own.. Get help, life doesn’t have to be this hard. You are not admitting defeat, you are admitting that some things are not meant to be done alone.

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” – Laurell K. Hamilton