New Year

5 Resolutions With a Difference

January often means many of us want to make changes in our lives. I believe we don’t need a new year to make those changes, you can start any day you choose. However, if you feel like this is the right time for you then I recommend you make changes that will benefit your overall well being, not just your health.

Usually the reason that New Year’s resolutions fail is because people give themselves a list too long. “Quit smoking, drink less alcohol, loose ten pounds…” It’s great if you want to be healthier but changing every aspect of your lifestyle is a huge under taking. If you want to make changes start small, choose one thing and work from there. Or better yet, make changes that will make you feel better from the inside out.

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Speak to and about yourself in a more positive way – I have spoken about the importance of self love in the past. I will continue to preach about it until everyone realises they are awesome. You should speak to yourself like a friend. However, most people speak to themselves with little patience and have demands that are unreasonable. Thoughts affect the way we feel, if you think kindly about yourself you’ll feel that way too.

Say goodbye to negative people – It’s hard to speak to yourself in a positive way if you are surrounded by negativity. Pay attention to the way you feel in the presence of certain friends and family members. If you are drained then that’s a good indicator that the relationship is unbalanced and it might be time for a change.

Trust your intuition – Also known as ‘trusting your gut’ this is a part of ourselves that we often ignore. I have yet to know of any bad decisions that have come from trusting intuition. Although not also an easy path it is most commonly the best for us. The next time you are faced with a tricky choice see what that little voice inside is saying. Not the fear or judgemental voice, but the part of you that feels like it’s connected to something bigger. This will also lead to further self trust because you will be doing what’s right for you and not someone else.

Open up – The main reason that people don’t start therapy is because they fear what may be discovered/uncovered. With that understanding comes a knowledge that there is a darkness inside of us. Talking to someone you trust or with a therapist means you can familiarise yourself with that part of who you are. We are all light and dark, yin and yang. It’s not bad and doesn’t have to be scary, sharing this part of you without judgement leads to personal acceptance. If you want to accept who you are, you have to accept all of you.

Figure out your truth – Give yourself some time to make sense of this life you are living. What do you believe? What really matters? Life can be busy and unrelenting, so much so that we don’t give ourselves time to ask the important questions. If you feel like life is pointless than it wouldn’t matter how you speak to yourself, or anyone for that matter. Take some time to decide what is important to you and see what happens when that leads your decision making.

Make 2016 the year that you make changes that will have a long reaching impact. Changing the way you feel about yourself and your place in the world is far more beneficial than loosing a few pounds.

“If you don’t have peace, it isn’t because someone took it from you; you gave it away. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you.” – John C. Maxwell

Resolutions

As today is New Year’s Eve I imagine many of you have started thinking about resolutions. The most common ones people choose are to loose weight, quit smoking or join a gym. It’s not that these are bad things to aspire to change. But often times the reason people are over weight, have addictions or don’t give themselves the time they deserve is not acknowledged.

Perhaps if you want to make some positive changes in your life you should start with why you want to make a change. Do you want to loose 10 pounds because you don’t feel as comfortable in yourself as you would like? Or because you think you’re fat and ugly? Before you make changes look at reasons behind them.change-4-1imepyc

It has also been found that making a large list of resolutions is never a good idea. What happens is that when one resolution isn’t reached, we think we might as well throw out the rest as well. So start small.

Observe the way you think about yourself. Notice what the internal voice says about the way you think or look. If it’s negative don’t judge it, just make a note and decide if you want it to continue. If you want 2015 to be more positive, start with your inner self.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” – Albert Einstein

Joy

Some people say that January has claims to the most depressing day of the year. Although scientifically that is not necessarily true, this month does have a dragging quality that seems to slow everything down. If you are feeling like you’re in a bit of a slump I offer some things that will hopefully leave you feeling all warm and fuzzy. This first video is of an 8 month old baby getting to hear his mothers voice. He contracted bacterial meningitis when he was 4 months old and hadn’t been able to hear since then.

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If you want to read through more good news stories The Journal has a great collection of some as well as nice videos. This week I was spending time with people who were talking about the news. It was so depressing, it made me feel heavy and sad. When I left them I searched things that would make me feel lighter again. Be aware of what you’re hearing and being surrounded by. Negative energy has a lot of power and can creep in when you don’t want it too. Enjoy this January day and do something like Googling cute kittens. I doubt anyone ever felt worse after a search like that. “The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E.E. Cummings

How to Feel Inspired

“In a culture obsessed with measuring talent, ability, and potential, we often overlook the important role of inspiration in enabling potential.”

The above quote is from an article called From Evaluation to Inspiration written by Scott Barry Kaufman. It looks at how important inspiration can be to our overall well being, while also explaining that it is not something that can be forced. We’re in a society that doesn’t tell us how important inspiration is. What is does tell us is that  what’s important is getting a job, sticking to it, saving for retirement and enjoy that money…then?

I prefer the idea that life is what you make of it and it can have many forms. Therefore any of us can be inspired from even the most unlikely of places and will arrive when it chooses.  However, if you feel like inspiration is missing from your life why not see if we can change that.

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Preparation and effort are the main ingredients according to Kaufman. Which means that you need to be ready for that instant inspiration strikes you. Whether it’s making sure the space where you paint is clear or that you have time next week to start writing. You need to be open to the experience of inspiration, openness to any and all experience is important. An open mind means that you can have the awareness when you’re on to something and can get to work.  It is also important to allow yourself to be surrounded by inspiring people. That’s an energy that can be contagious.

If you’re looking for inspiration in any form I recommend looking at the following blog. Many of the photos posted are spaces in homes and ideas for your house. However, it’s very difficult to get inspiration when you aren’t in an inspiring place. Perhaps for you that’s the first step, make a space that inspires.

Are you feeling like you don’t know where to start? Have a look here at The Freedom Experiment.com, where there are tips on how to get passion and inspiration back into you life.

The days are long and Winter still has some blustery weather up her sleeve. Which makes it very easy to just sit back and hibernate. However, you could decide to do something different, tap into a different part of yourself. Kaufman says that inspiration can make you feel more satisfied, more spiritual and help you gain more meaning in your life.

Inspiration comes to those who are open to it, if it can be that easy then starting today be open to it. See what comes your way and welcome it. How else will you ever learn if you’re meant to be living a different life?

“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” – Albert Einstein

Time to Declutter

Welcome to January, the Monday of the year. Step one is to ignore any of the adverts and articles that make you feel bad about yourself. Step two is to do something that makes you feel good.

Decluttering is a great way to feel a sense of accomplishment. Start with 1 cupboard or closet, not the whole house. If you start too big then if you run out of time or energy you’ll be disappointed that you didn’t finish. This website aptly named uncluttered.com has tips for organisation and how to declutter most spaces.  Here you can read on why it’s important to have less clutter in your life and house as well as lots of advice on what to do to get started.

Karen Kingston the author of  Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui writes “When all your available space is filled with clutter, there is no room for anything new to come into your life. Your thoughts tend to dwell in the past, and you feel bogged down with problems that have dogged you for some time. You tend to look back rather than forward in your life, blaming the past for your current situation rather than taking responsibility for creating a better tomorrow.”

Holding onto items of the past which hold emotional meaning for us means we’re stuck in that time. It’s difficult to move forward when everything in your house ties you to the past. In the present your surrounded by stuff that may not have use for you anymore. As a culture we often link our identity to things. ‘Look how successful I am, I have lots of stuff.’

I don’t want my legacy to be a house full of stuff. I want it to be that I was a good person, surrounded by love. That cannot be stuffed in a pantry.

Starting today try to part with the items you haven’t used, the clothes you haven’t worn and the papers you won’t read. Not only will you feel a sense of accomplishment but you can feel a sense of letting go.

While you start this I recommend listening to some supportive music that allows you to enjoy clearing a space. The chorus of this song is ‘keep your head up, keep your heart strong.’ Words that can prove remarkably beneficial.

Make 2014 the year you work on you for you. Do something you feel good about.

“Freedom…is the act of releasing ourselves from the bondage of that which keeps us from living the life we were meant to live.” – Kelli Wilson

Happy Christmas!!

To everyone far and wide I want to wish you a lovely holiday season.

Make sure you get some time to relax. I know the turkey needs to be cooked and potatoes mashed, but use this season to enjoy some family time. The dishes will get washed and the food will be lovely. If it’s not, at least there is a great story for next year.

If you feel like spending some time relaxing online over the holidays. I recommend you check out a website called Imgur. Full of images and funny stories it’s an entertaining time waster. Also, if you want to test your Christmas movie knowledge here is a quiz on how well you know Home Alone.

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Have a wonderful holiday season and new year. I wish all the best to you and yours for 2014, who knows what adventures lie around the corner.

“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?” – Bob Hope