Goals

20 Lessons for Happiness

After having a roof over their heads and food in their belly, happiness is usually the goal that most people aspire to reach. It may sound simple enough however many things can get in the way. If you are looking for ways to feel happier in your own life here are some things to remember.

  1. Stop caring about what others think. (Especially strangers) Embrace the quote: “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard Baruch  
  2. Learn how to deal with endings. Endings happen ALL the time, you move, a friend moves, you change job, a relationship finishes. Ideally we should be able to learn from all of our experiences (even the hard ones) and move onto something better.
  3. Find a physical activity that you enjoy. Staying fit doesn’t have to be about looking a certain way, it will help make you feel better emotionally as well. If the gym isn’t your thing, try running, yoga or join a team near you so you can make friends as well as breaking a sweat.
  4. Notice how food affects your mood. Serotonin is the brains natural mood regulator, depending on what foods you eat it can increase or decrease. Food also affects our energy levels, food high in sugar will give you a boost followed by a crash. Once you become aware of the impact of your diet it will be easier to choose food that keeps you on an even keel. 
  5. Let go of people who bring you down. Having a negative person around can make the world seem like a pretty bad place. Try to limit the amount of time spent with that kind of personality. If that’s not possible then try to be around in body but not in mind. 
  6. Find friends who you can have real conversations with. There are so many facets to life, make sure you have people who you can debate the big questions with, it will make you feel less alone.
  7. Don’t believe everything you read/see/hear in the media. Often you are being sold to, be critical.
  8. Stop comparing yourself to others. Like you, everyone is just trying to get through each day. You can’t know the journey of another at first glance so don’t make assumptions.
  9. Start speaking to yourself like a friend. If that sounds too difficult try speaking to yourself like an acquaintance who you would like to get to know better. Therefore it would not be in your best interest to constantly put them down.
  10. Everyone feels like they are a little crazy. And in truth we all are, I am convinced there is no such thing as ‘normal’.
  11. Just because you feel guilty doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. 
  12. Don’t judge your feelings. Our emotions don’t have to be good or bad, they just are. Telling yourself that you should feel any different then you do isn’t helpful. If a friend came to you upset would you tell them they are being stupid? I doubt it and remember, you are talking to yourself like a friend now.
  13. Be comfortable with your own company. Who do you spend more time with but yourself? 
  14. Embrace change. Change is constant, the better you can adapt to it the less overwhelmed you will feel.
  15. Be positive. You’ll live longer.
  16. Be aware of your ‘baggage’. We all have our own emotional issues, that’s okay. Knowing what yours is will make it easy to connect.
  17. Find your passion. 
  18. Let go of ‘should’ and ‘should not’. Why shouldn’t you be exactly where you are, doing exactly what you are doing?
  19. It’s never to late to change. If you don’t like your life/relationship/job etc. then change it. Yes it may be difficult but if you don’t want to be in this same place in 5 years time then change has to happen.
  20. Fear is a liar. Fear will gain your trust and make you think it knows best, it doesn’t. Be hopeful and excited about things to come.

“Learn to value yourself, which means: fight for your happiness.” – Ayn Rand

 

How to Feel Inspired

“In a culture obsessed with measuring talent, ability, and potential, we often overlook the important role of inspiration in enabling potential.”

The above quote is from an article called From Evaluation to Inspiration written by Scott Barry Kaufman. It looks at how important inspiration can be to our overall well being, while also explaining that it is not something that can be forced. We’re in a society that doesn’t tell us how important inspiration is. What is does tell us is that  what’s important is getting a job, sticking to it, saving for retirement and enjoy that money…then?

I prefer the idea that life is what you make of it and it can have many forms. Therefore any of us can be inspired from even the most unlikely of places and will arrive when it chooses.  However, if you feel like inspiration is missing from your life why not see if we can change that.

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Preparation and effort are the main ingredients according to Kaufman. Which means that you need to be ready for that instant inspiration strikes you. Whether it’s making sure the space where you paint is clear or that you have time next week to start writing. You need to be open to the experience of inspiration, openness to any and all experience is important. An open mind means that you can have the awareness when you’re on to something and can get to work.  It is also important to allow yourself to be surrounded by inspiring people. That’s an energy that can be contagious.

If you’re looking for inspiration in any form I recommend looking at the following blog. Many of the photos posted are spaces in homes and ideas for your house. However, it’s very difficult to get inspiration when you aren’t in an inspiring place. Perhaps for you that’s the first step, make a space that inspires.

Are you feeling like you don’t know where to start? Have a look here at The Freedom Experiment.com, where there are tips on how to get passion and inspiration back into you life.

The days are long and Winter still has some blustery weather up her sleeve. Which makes it very easy to just sit back and hibernate. However, you could decide to do something different, tap into a different part of yourself. Kaufman says that inspiration can make you feel more satisfied, more spiritual and help you gain more meaning in your life.

Inspiration comes to those who are open to it, if it can be that easy then starting today be open to it. See what comes your way and welcome it. How else will you ever learn if you’re meant to be living a different life?

“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” – Albert Einstein