Dublin

Autumn Workshop

Worry and anxiety. They can run and ruin our lives. They can make us feel like our decisions can’t be trusted. Or that there is something terrible waiting for us around the corner. Living with these worries can have a detrimental impact on our body, mind and soul. You may find that you’re always tired or you can’t relax.

This doesn’t have to be the case. You don’t have to go through life feeling worried or anxious all the time. You have a choice, especially once you have the tools.

Myself and a fellow psychotherapist will be running a one day workshop to help you learn about anxiety. How it impacts you and how to change your patterns so you can learn how to have it control you less.

In the beautiful and tranquil setting of the Wisdom Centre you can take some time for yourself. Learn about your triggers and better ways to cope.

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If you are interested in this workshop you can purchase tickets here.

When: September 30th at 10am

Where: The Wisdom Centre, Cork Street, Dublin 8

Cost: €80 for the full day, all supplies provided.

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

“Too many people are unaware that it is not outer events or circumstances that will create happiness; rather, it is our perception of events and of ourselves that will create, or uncreate, positive emotions.” – Albert Ellis

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Winter sure can be depressing. I don’t like the short, grey days or the chilly nights. If like me you feel your mood and energy are down this time of year, here are some things to help make your Autumn and Winter more enjoyable. 

  1. Visit Botanical Gardens. Even in the dead of Winter their greenhouses are filled with beautiful plants and trees. They are warm and smell lovely. The added oxygen can help lift your spirits, while the warm air will remind you of warmer days. If you don’t have botanical gardens around you visit any park, feeling closer to nature often make us feel better too.
  2. Meet a friend for tea or coffee – not pints. I am not saying drinking is out of the question for the colder months. However, if you are already feeling down, adding alcohol to the mix isn’t a good idea. Alcohol is a depressant, that followed by pouring your heart out to a friend can often lead to the fear in a big way. Instead, meet someone you trust for tea and talk. It will give you a chance to vent and hopefully not judge yourself too harshly.
  3. Let yourself hibernate. It’s colder, the days are shorter and your energy levels are low. Instead of spending the days complaining about that, give in. Let yourself move slower, eat a bit more and do less. Putting yourself down for your lack of energy won’t change anything, it will most likely do the opposite. The seasons will change, like they always do and you will once again feel more motivated. Untill that time, relax.
  4. Grab some vitamin D supplements. Usually us humans get all the vitamin D we need from the sun. The UV rays trigger its synthesis into our body. However, in these Winter months we often do not get enough. Those D vitamins are responsible for making our bones strong and keeping our immune system healthy. Pop into your local health food shop and give yourself a boost.15107440_10153934208221603_4422841898846942937_n
  5. Eat foods that are hearty and rich with good fats. This time of year it can feel like the tank is always empty. Make sure you are eating things that give you a boost. Nuts, lentils, chicken and turkey will all fill your belly and help balance your mind. Having a slow cooker in the house is handy because you can fill it with what you need on your way to work. When you return home dinner is ready to go, slip into some comfy clothes and eat up.
  6. Go outside on your lunch break. Depending on the hours you work you may never see sunlight. That can make it seem like you are living one long, dark, day. You need a break. Even if it’s chilly bundle up and walk around the block. Breathe in the air and admire those grey clouds. They’ll part soon and the sun will return… Right?
  7. Watch, read or listen to something uplifting. Sometimes we need to feel like the world isn’t that bad. I did a post before with some reading suggestions which you can check out. Otherwise ask friends and family what they watch when they want to feel optimistic. Sometimes we need the outside world to help counteract the inside feelings.

The key to all of this is noticing how you feel and deciding what you need. Trying to convince yourself you feel different than you do, doesn’t work. Embrace the cold and the grey. Curl up, get warm and be lazy. It will be Spring before you know it and you’ll be surprised how fast it’s come around. If you feel like you are feeling more down then usual contact someone like myself and talk. It’s totally normal to feel out of sorts at times and usually all that is needed is a little extra support.

“Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home.” – Edith Sitwell

 

Workshop – A Reflective Journey

Life moves quickly. So quickly, that most people spend all of their time focusing on what’s next and what needs to be achieved; rarely taking the time to reflect on the journey thus far. Always looking to the future can lead to feeling anxious and unfulfilled. Instead of appreciating everything you have accomplished you may end up comparing yourself to others and focusing on what you lack.

Have you ever given yourself the time to reflect on all the ups and downs that have lead to you being here today?

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It’s difficult to know where you are going if you don’t understand where you’ve been. Although one day is not enough to reflect on a life’s journey, it’s a start.

Through the use of exercises, visualisations, discussions and an introduction to the stages of psychological development, you will gain personal knowledge and understanding. This learning will help give you a further awareness of your own patterns and how they have shaped your life and reactions. Gaining self awareness will help put you on the right path to living in a more positive way.

Further Information

When: Saturday, April 23rd 10am – 5pm

Where: 9 Fitzwilliam Street Upper, Dublin 2

Cost: €100 – all supplies, snacks and tea included.

If you are interested in joining or would like to know more please contact Angela, spaces are limited:  085 133 6644, or by email: adastratherapy@gmail.com

“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.” – Ralph Ellison

Nice Stuff

Here in Dublin the sun in shining and I am feeling hopeful for Spring. It has put me in a good mood and I want you to feel the same. With that in mind I’ve put together a short post of things that are nice. If the sun isn’t shining where you are I hope the clouds clear soon.

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Fan of House Of Cards? Check out this Dublin version

This is both beautiful and heartbreaking.

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“Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.” – Maxim Gorky

The Human Connection

Last week I had the opportunity to take part in the World’s Biggest Eye Contact Experiment here in Dublin. The goal was to get people to ponder the human connection and where it has gone.

Although advertised as making eye contact for 1 minute there were no timers and no one was counting down the seconds. It was more about being present and experiencing what it is like to sit across from a stranger and connecting. It’s rare we sit in silence staring so deeply into the eyes of someone we do not know. It’s rare we do that with those we are familiar with.

Eye contact removes the ego, you can’t hide or pretend to be someone you aren’t. When we have walls up the thought of someone seeing the real us and accepting that seems terrifying. But fear wasn’t what I sensed that day. The energy that surrounded those participating was palpable, it was calming and incredibly grounded. There was an openness to the experience which lead uneasy bystanders to take part, leaving looking noticeably different.

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Although at the top of one of busiest pedestrian streets in Dublin, a relaxing presence seemed to surround the area. The activity of the world around us faded away, leaving a warm and friendly atmosphere. There were smiles, hugs and tears exchanged.

When everything else fades away all we have is connection. Connection to each other and connection to ourselves. You don’t need to wait for something like this to come your way. You can start connecting more fully today by putting down the phone, meeting in person, getting out in nature, starting a conversation with a stranger or looking yourself in the eye and telling yourself it will all be okay.

This experience once again reminded me of why we are all here. We are here to love and we can’t do that without connection.

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” – Mother Teresa

Do Good, Feel Good

Giving back to the world around you can make you feel better in yourself. It also has added health benefits like lower blood pressure and a longer life. When you aren’t feeling happy in yourself it can be difficult to be motivated to do something for others. Why not do something that you enjoy with the added bonus of helping?

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Foster an animal – If you love animals but maybe don’t feel ready for the commitment of a full time pet, try fostering. Here in Dublin the SPCA is always looking for foster parents for their animals. You get to see what it’s like to have a pet, without feeling obligated to keep it forever.

Volunteer at a charity shop – If you have some spare time or have been out of work and want to ease yourself back into that life, this is a great start. Usually the hours are relatively short and you will also be helping a great cause.

Run for charity – There are tons of fun runs all over the world that need money raised. If you already like to run you are doing something you love while also contributing to the greater good.

Turn hobbies into fundraisers – Maybe you love to bake or have a knack for making decorations. You could set up a table one day and decide that all money raised goes to help a cause you are passionate about.

There are so many benefits to giving and it’s something that is incredibly easy to do. Especially once you realise you don’t even have to go out of your way to do it.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank

Shop For Good

Console is the National Suicide Charity, founded by Paul Kelly following the suicide of his young sister in 2002. It provides professional counselling, support and helpline services (1800 247 247) to those in suicidal crisis and to those bereaved through suicide in Ireland and the UK. They seek to respond to the spiritual, emotional and psychological needs of their clients. Their mission is to provide professional therapeutic counselling, support and helpline services to people in suicidal crisis and to those bereaved through suicide with respect, dignity and compassion.

They are always working to give back to anyone who comes to them for support. Now is the chance for the rest of to give back to them. They are looking for volunteers for their wonderful campaign called ‘Shop For Good’. This is a unique fundraising initiative to raise much needed funds and awareness for Console, where every cent goes directly to the charity.

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It runs at the Dundrum Town Centre on April 24th-26th.  The concept is simple, buy a coupon from the Dundrum coupon kiosks for just €1.00. With each coupon you receive massive discounts in more than 100 shops and restaurants throughout the centre.  Multiple coupons will entitle the customer to multiple discounts so the more coupons you buy, the more you save and the more money will be raised for Console. Last year almost €40,000 was raised but they are hoping to double that figure this year.

Want to know how you can help? Console NEEDS volunteers! If you could give a minimum of three house in times listed below please contact Gerard Tiernan on 083 1265373 or email gerard@console.ie.

Friday, April 24th                         Saturday, April 25th                      Sunday, April 26th

9am – 12pm                                 9am – 11am                                     10am – 1pm
12pm – 3pm                                11am – 2pm                                      1pm – 4pm
3pm – 6pm                                   2pm – 5pm                                       4pm – 7pm
6pm – 9pm                                   5pm – 7pm

If you don’t want to volunteer then make sure to head to Dundrum over the weekend of April 24th – 26th and shop for good!

“Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr.