When people learn I’m a psychotherapist I often get asked many questions. If you haven’t been in therapy yourself I am sure there are things you have wondered about. If you have any other questions not listed here please feel free to contact me.
Does therapy work? Yes. Definitely. I have experienced the benefits of therapy both as therapist and client. I stand by the process because I know real change can happen.
What’s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy? The only difference is length of time. If you are seeking counselling it is usually because there is one specific thing you want to work on. Psychotherapy is more about looking at overall patterns and how to live and react in a more positive way.
How long will it take? There’s no steadfast rule for length of time. When you decide you have gained all that you want to then we will part ways. It may take only a handful of sessions or we may work together for years.
Will I have to tell you everything? No. You only have to share what you feel comfortable with, when you are ready to share it.
Why Ad Astra? There’s a Latin phrase that goes, Per Aspera, Ad Astra. Which means, ‘Through the rough, to the stars.’ I feel like that is a great description of therapy as well as life. Everything can seem dark and overwhelming but in the end there is beauty and wonder.
Will you diagnose me? Personally, I am not a fan of labels. I’m not sure it makes life any easier, often it seems to complicate things further. We are all a collection of experiences, how we choose to deal with those experiences makes us who we are. Together we’ll explore what life is like for you, we’ll call it whatever you like.
Will my relationships change? They might. Often we get stuck in roles or relationships that don’t help us. When we start to make changes in our lives, even if they are good for us not everyone will be supportive. You may notice some people might not like the way you are changing, while others will be incredibly proud.
What will I learn and gain? Once you have a better understanding of yourself you will learn self-compassion. This compassion results in you not being so hard on yourself, which means you feel better in who you are and the choices you make.
How can telling a stranger about my life help me? I only have the background information you give me, I don’t have any preconceived notions about who you should be. You get to start as a blank slate, which means you get a fresh start and a new beginning. Sharing a different part of yourself and hopefully being able to see it in a non-judgemental way.
Do I need to tell people I’ve started therapy? That decision is up to you. However, there is nothing to be ashamed of. The more people comfortable speaking about therapy the better.
Do I have to commit to more than one session? Nope. Within our first session we’ll know if we’re a good fit. If we work well you only have to commit session to session.