Month: October 2015

The Human Connection

Last week I had the opportunity to take part in the World’s Biggest Eye Contact Experiment here in Dublin. The goal was to get people to ponder the human connection and where it has gone.

Although advertised as making eye contact for 1 minute there were no timers and no one was counting down the seconds. It was more about being present and experiencing what it is like to sit across from a stranger and connecting. It’s rare we sit in silence staring so deeply into the eyes of someone we do not know. It’s rare we do that with those we are familiar with.

Eye contact removes the ego, you can’t hide or pretend to be someone you aren’t. When we have walls up the thought of someone seeing the real us and accepting that seems terrifying. But fear wasn’t what I sensed that day. The energy that surrounded those participating was palpable, it was calming and incredibly grounded. There was an openness to the experience which lead uneasy bystanders to take part, leaving looking noticeably different.

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Although at the top of one of busiest pedestrian streets in Dublin, a relaxing presence seemed to surround the area. The activity of the world around us faded away, leaving a warm and friendly atmosphere. There were smiles, hugs and tears exchanged.

When everything else fades away all we have is connection. Connection to each other and connection to ourselves. You don’t need to wait for something like this to come your way. You can start connecting more fully today by putting down the phone, meeting in person, getting out in nature, starting a conversation with a stranger or looking yourself in the eye and telling yourself it will all be okay.

This experience once again reminded me of why we are all here. We are here to love and we can’t do that without connection.

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” – Mother Teresa

What does success mean to you?

We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves. It can be hard to accept yourself for who you are. There is usually a long list of things we want to accomplish before we feel like we’ve ‘made it’. There’s nothing wrong with setting goals, that is something I would encourage. However, what can often happen is if we don’t reach certain goals at certain times we beat ourselves up.

Sometimes the goals we have in mind aren’t ours. We feel pressure from others to be a certain way. It’s important to ask yourself – How do you measure success?

Everyone will measure success differently, look what you value. Around the world what matters most is:

  • Life satisfaction
  • Health
  • The environment
  • Education

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Most people would say they consider being happy in their lives the ultimate goal but how many actually chase that? Are you doing what makes you happy? Society would have us believe wealth and fame is what we should be striving for. Until you decide what is important for you it’s hard to know if you are living the life you want. Take time to choose your own path, then choose what makes you happy.

“I can’t give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.” – Herbet Bayard Swope