Month: August 2015

Autumn Course: Changing Negative Patterns

Our brain loves patterns and the familiar. Sometimes patterns had to develop to help us deal with difficult situations. However, once those situations have changed the patterns can still remain. This can result in carrying anxiety, guilt and anger from the past into present day. Your worries may have helped motivate you in the past but now they just keep you up at night.

These negative patterns can have a huge effect on your life and happiness levels. Are you tired of feeling negative/guilty/anxious/angry? Do something positive for yourself and participate in this six week course.

Above is an outline of the subjects being covered, from insecurities to how to cope with these difficult emotions. The only person we can change is ourselves and the only things we can control are our reactions. When we are better equipped to understand where these reactions are based we can deal with life in a calmer way.

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Past participants have said:

“Excellent content, very clear, positive and engaging. I would highly recommend this course.”

“I now see within my family that I have to change myself and not allow them to control my life. I need to let them deal with their own issues.”

“I came to this course with one particular problem. The six weeks have enabled me to sort out what was happening and why I felt like this ‘problem’ was running through my head, as if on a loop. Glad to say I am well on way to dealing with this and I know I will get there.”

“It helped me face some difficult situations. Something that I thought was a problem, now doesn’t seem so bad.”

Further Information:

  • When: Tuesday’s beginning October 13th and running for 6 weeks, from 6:30pm – 8:30pm.
  • Where: Siochan Counselling, 9 Fitzwilliam Street Upper, Dublin 2.
  • Cost: €15 a week which includes all supplies, tea, coffee and snacks.

If you are interested in joining please contact me immediately as spaces are limited                           at: 085 133 6644, or by email: adastratherapy@gmail.com

“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.” – Rick Warren

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Draining Energies

Have you ever spent time with a friend or acquaintance and felt exhausted after a visit? Some people in our lives can make us feel energised, while others can make us feel drained. It’s the people that drain us that we need to be weary of.

I have heard the term ‘energy vampire’ in the past. Although a good description of what it feels like to be in the presence of someone like this, it’s not entirely fair. Mainly because a vampires goal is to suck the life from you, for the most part the individuals that drain us are not doing this on purpose. In many cases they are completely unaware. Which is why you need to watch yourself around them.

It’s often this lack of awareness that causes the drain. If you aren’t aware of your own process (journey/struggle/ability to make sense of why you’re here) then you may get stuck in a ‘poor me’ cycle. Where instead of learning the lessons the universe keeps throwing at you, you complain that the same things continue to happen. Often insisting that everything needs to change but not starting with yourself.

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For those of us that are caregivers this type of person can very easily pull us in. They are looking for an outside source to rescue them, while the carer, in turn is looking for someone to rescue.

Are you being drained? Here are some things to note.

  • They are taking more than they are giving: if you feel drained that means the energy is going only one way. Healthy friendships and relationships are a two way street.
  • Some people love to be the victim: there are times in our lives when we are going to be miserable. Grieving, feeling sad/angry/fed-up are all normal parts of life. However, anything can become a pattern, that includes wallowing and feeling victimised. Some people begin to feel they only get attention when being the victim, you don’t have to be a part of that cycle.
  • You choose to give your power away: you have to decide what treatment is okay, that includes how much of yourself you give to others. Boundaries are important in all relationships.

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If you have a friend who’s feeling like a drain these days and just needs extra support than make sure you’ve protected yourself. Follow the steps above and imagine there’s a strong force field that surrounds you before you spend time with them. Imagine it keeps you grounded and protected.

If until this point you had never noticed how you felt around others then start checking in. When you’re with your best friend, partner or work colleagues, take a few slow deep breaths and notice how you feel in your body. You are more than a well of energy for others to take advantage of. The more tuned in you are with yourself the better you will know where there are imbalances in your life.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” – Joel Osteen

Pets and Animals

The joy we can get from sharing our space with another is amazing. That same joy can be got from sharing our space with an animal. It may not be until you have a pet of your own that you realise how much love you can have for a furry friend.

There are tons of health benefits from owning a pet. Below I’ll just name a few:

  • Less stress
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Helps you socialise
  • Improved mood and health

Not to mention the feeling you have knowing you get to care for another living thing. The responsibility of having a pet has literally turned lives around. In a few select prisons inmates were allowed to keep pets. The results were incredible: “Over the course of a year, prisoners on the pet ward were less violent and needed only half the medication of their petless peers, and there were no suicide attempts, compared with eight on the other ward. Another study, at Lorton Correctional Facility in Virginia, found that prisoners on a special pet programme had a recidivism rate less than a quarter of the national average. ”
Those findings are amazing and are directly related to having a pet to care for.

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If you find yourself feeling lonely or down a pet can be a wonderful natural way to raise your mood. Of course only decide to start caring for an animal when you are sure you have the time and ability. Like you they deserve love and affection and since their love is unconditional make sure you treat them right.

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” – Anatole France