Month: January 2015

Comparisons

One thing that has become very evident to me is how dangerous it is to compare ourselves to others. Many of us walk around life making assumptions. We assume the man with the nice car has his life sorted with a great job. We imagine that the beautiful woman is happier. We gain very little knowledge about someone in a glance. While you are putting those around you on a pedestal, you are lowering yourself below it.

When you don’t witness the nitty gritty of everyday life it is very easy to assume others are doing better than you are. However, at some point in their lives everyone struggles and overall very few people feel ‘sorted’. But when you spend your time and energy making up wonderful lies about those around you, you drain the joy from your own experience.

Sally got a new job. Michael got engaged. Social media can lead to these comparisons happening more often, which leads to us judging ourselves more harshly. I don’t imagine you have often read an update that said, ‘Spent all week in my pyjamas, didn’t have the energy to go outside.’ or ‘I’m so lonely.’ Although we all have times like that.

We all want the outside world to see our best selves. It’s safer. Often we distract others with false smiles and things we cannot afford.

Instead of jumping to conclusions about how perfect the lives of others are, reflect on your own journey. You have struggled and fought and you have made it to this point. Assuming others are better than you detracts from all you have done and earned. Put that energy to better use, if you are unhappy change. (Easier said then done, I know that.)

Instead of wishing you were someone else, wish you were your best self. Then start doing what you need to make that happen.

“Don’t underestimate your worth by comparing yourself with others.” – Jaachynma N.E. Agu

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A good read

January certainly feels like a month to hibernate. If like myself you find the evenings too dark and the air too chilled, perhaps picking up a new book is something you want to do.

I love books that offer a fresh perspective, a new way to look at the world around us. Below I offer a list of some things I have read over the years that either made me intrigued, content, baffled or a long list of other emotions that reading can trigger. I have supplied the title, the author and the description. The rest is up to you. Happy reading!

Life Between Life – Joel L. Whitton, Joe Fisher  : The ancient Tibetans called it bardo. Doctor Joel L. Whitton, metaphysical expert and researcher, calls it metaconsciousness. It’s the wondrous state that occurs after death – the threshold of consciousness that separates one incarnation from another.

The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Miracles and Belief – Gregg Braden : In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, shocked the world by saying that this “matrix” is where the birth of stars, the DNA of life, and everything between originates. Recent discoveries reveal dramatic evidence that Planck’s matrix – “The Divine Matrix” – is real. It is this missing link in our understanding that provides the container for the universe, the bridge between our imagination and our reality, and the mirror in our world for what we create in our beliefs.

The Secret – Rhonda Byrne : In this book, you’ll learn how to use The Secret in every aspect of your life — money, health, relationships, happiness, and in every interaction you have in the world. You’ll begin to understand the hidden, untapped power that’s within you, and this revelation can bring joy to every aspect of your life.

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Bossypants – Tina Fey : Bossypants is an autobiographical comedy book written by American comedian Tina Fey.

E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality – Pam Grout : E-Squared could best be described as a lab manual with simple experiments to prove once and for all that reality is malleable, that consciousness trumps matter, and that you shape your life with your mind.

The Secret History of The World – Jonathan Black, Mark Booth : A complete history of the world, from the beginning of time to the present day, based on the beliefs and writings of the secret societies.

Yes Please – Amy Poehler : In Amy Poehler’s highly anticipated first book, Yes Please, she offers up a big juicy stew of personal stories, funny bits on sex and love, friendship, parenthood and real life advice.

“We read to know we’re not alone.” – William Nicholson

A gift to yourself

The only thing any of us can control are our reactions and the only people we can change are ourselves. If you want to make a positive change for yourself check out this 8 week course for a happy new you.

You can learn:

  • how to have more confidence
  • increase your self esteem
  • feel less stressed and anxious
  • the skills to attain your own personal goals

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The course is offered in Dublin city centre and begins the 19th of January from 7 – 9.30pm. The cost is €320 for the eight weeks where snacks and materials will be provided.

If you feel like you want the new year to start with a new more positive you, I recommend you get moving as places are limited.

For more information contact Gerry: siochancounselling@gmail.com

“And that is how change happens. One gesture. One person. One moment at a time.” – Libba Bray