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When was the last time you said how you really feel?

Myself and my friend Sinead Lynch at Silver Linings have made a video looking at how the Irish and Canadians can avoid their real feelings.

Although we attempt, (please excuse my exaggerated Canadian accent) to use humour to highlight how we all can cover our true feelings. I do believe it is important to talk to someone when you are having a hard time. Life is not always easy, for many people it can seem like everyday is an uphill struggle. Sharing your internal strife with another person can sometimes help lighten the load.

And remember that animals this cute exist. That can help too.

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There’s always time to talk.

“What does your anxiety do? It does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but it empties today of its strength. It does not make you escape the evil; it makes you unfit to cope with it if it comes.” – Raymond Cramer

Spring

Easter is around the corner, the trees are budding and the flowers are beginning to bloom. The days are longer and the mornings are brighter; as they say, Spring is in the air.

Entering a new season is always a time of change. Personally, I prefer the change into warmer days and shorter nights. I notice how other people seem to prefer this time as well. There have been many studies done to show how the winter months can make us feel quite down. Us humans are not alone, watch the way these cows behave from being let out after a long winter.

With this time of change try to embrace the positive around you. If you feel your life has very few silver linings then try to enjoy the simple things. Like the new flowers and the green leaves beginning to get sunlight for the first time. Us humans have always had a connection to the changing seasons, it meant renewed life. The Pagans celebrated the Winter solstice because it meant that the darkest days of the year were over. The light was returning and they had survived, it was a great time for a party. This is the reason why Christmas is celebrated when it is.

Why not try to embrace that connection to the seasons yourself? With our focus on other things we so rarely get to observe and enjoy the changes happening to the world around us. The winter weather is a hassle and the summer sun is too hot. We can so easily complain about things we cannot change. Why not just sit back and observe? Being present is no easy feat but beginning with the weather is a great start. There is nothing you can do about the rain or snow which means you must accept it. That’s an important lesson no matter what time of year it is.

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Enjoy this change of season and allow yourself a few minutes to remember something we so often forget. A connection to this planet we call home.

“What I need is the dandelion in the spring. The bright yellow that means rebirth instead of destruction. The promise that life can go on, no matter how bad our losses. That it can be good again.” – Suzanne Collins

Course Information

Empowerment Through Self Care

Far too many of us focus on the day to day in our lives. Forgetting to mind ourselves amidst all the hustle and bustle. We are busy with jobs, children, friends and family. In all that busyness do you ever take time for yourself? Can you, without feeling guilty?

I have always loved the analogy of oxygen masks on an airplane. We are told to put our masks on before helping anyone else. Why is that? Because if you need that mask to breathe but focus on everyone else you could suffocate. Are you going through your life making sure everyone else can breathe without asking if you can?

If so, why not take two hours a week, for eight weeks, just for you. Giving you the chance to better get to know yourself. Through this self development you can learn how to better care for yourself.

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Past participants of the course have had this to say:

“This course has been a real help to me, to understand me! For the first time I am in tune with me.”

“I would highly recommend this course, it gives you an inside view of yourself. It seems to cover a lot of issues and it’s an introduction to yourself, to see who you really are.’

“It gives you insights into your behaviour and habits and how to make improvements in emotional well being.”

Further Information:

  • When: Beginning May 7th and running for 8 weeks, from 6:30pm – 8:30pm.
  • Where: Siochan Counselling, 9 Fitzwilliam Street Upper, Dublin 2.
  • Cost: €15 a week. All supplies will be provided, as well as coffee, tea and biscuits for breaks.

If you are interested in joining please contact me at: 085 133 6644, or by email: adastratherapy@gmail.com

If you would like more information on me, feel free to check out my website, or my LinkedIn.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Nice Stuff

It’s a rainy day here in Dublin and after a hectic week I welcome it. The rain allows me to stay inside and potter around. I know many of us can get caught up in all the stresses of daily life. Therefore, I offer you to take some time sit back, relax and enjoy some videos that will hopefully make you smile.

For anyone who was/is a fan of Breaking Bad.

Enjoy the rest of your week and remember there is ALWAYS time for yourself. You just have to take it and make it.

“Each day means a new twenty-four hours. Each day means everything’s possible again. You live in the moment, you die in the moment, you take it all one day at a time.” – Marie Lu

The self, not the selfie

For any of you unfamiliar with the word ‘selfie’ it is a self-portrait usually taken with a mobile. Recently on Facebook and Twitter a new trend has developed where girls and women take no-makeup selfies. Although I have not jumped on that band wagon, the Irish Cancer Society has in a very creative way.

They have decided to use these no make-up photos as a way to fundraise. Using your Irish mobile and texting your photo to 50300, €4 gets donated to the charity. Or you can just text the number and the money is donated without any picture needed.

I believe this is a great idea and I will be donating but I won’t be taking the ‘selfie’. The reason? I don’t share the idea that showing my makeup-less face is that important. Why is it that as woman have we bought into the concept that we need makeup to make ourselves look good? I prefer my face without any blemishes or dark circles however, I don’t think I have ever asked why that is. Men (majority) don’t wear makeup and seem perfectly content walking around with naked faces.

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I believe this comes down to how woman feel about their inner selves. I get a sense that on the whole, most woman don’t like themselves very much. Using the example of the image above there is a case to be argued that woman are made to feel less. Which means there is a great opportunity to change that and it has to start at the individual level. If we had a planet full of well adjusted, happy individuals this would be an easier place to live I am sure.

Ever heard the saying ‘fake it, until you make it’? When it comes to self worth it’s a helpful belief. A great way to make yourself feel more secure in your being is with positive affirmations. I’ll give a few examples but if you want more, read up here. This exercise will work best if you do it every day, writing down the statements and saying them out loud.

  • I am a happy and healthy person.
  • I feel a divine sense of well being, high self esteem and confidence.
  • I believe in myself and my ability to do anything.
  • I have a positive attitude towards myself.
  • I feel appreciative and grateful for everything in my life.

Instead of the importance of looking good to the outside world, why not focus your attention to feeling good on the inside. The more happy you are in yourself the less you’ll care about others opinions of you. Maybe give yourself time to examine what makes you feel attractive and what doesn’t. Decide what you want for you, instead of what the world wants from you.

“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.” – J.M. Barrie

St. Patrick’s Day

Growing up in Canada I remember St. Patrick’s Day being about wearing green to school and then drinking green in college. Although most people only associate St. Patricks Day with intoxication it can have a different feeling in it’s country of origin.

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Ireland is labelled by it’s own citizens as a country of begrudgers. Complaining about the rain when it’s lashing and when the sun is out, complaining that is it too hot. On Paddy’s weekend the weather worries can be tossed aside as a great buzz fills the cities. A new found patriotism takes over which is a feeling not often displayed here. Unlike North America where inhabitants can sometimes shove the love of their country down your throat.

Here patriotism seems to be an all or nothing experience, it’s usually by the whole nation, not just at the individual level. For example, when the Irish rugby team is set to win the six nations or when a female boxer is going to win gold at the Olympics. This country of clans comes together to celebrate or mourn, depending on the outcome.

A couple videos to feel some Irish pride yourself.

There are Irish expats living all over the world and although many use this day to feel some form of pride, it is still mainly associated with alcohol. Which can make it difficult to enjoy for those who do not drink. If you struggle with alcohol infused holidays I recommend you look at a post I did a few months ago.

To enjoy this time without feeling as though you’re missing out, keep your eyes peeled for events that don’t involve alcohol. In Dublin there’s a 3 day festival for people of all ages, to see all the events look here.

I hope all you enjoy this weekend and if you are Irish spend some time getting in touch with your roots. That doesn’t have to mean enjoying a Guinness.

“Being Irish, he had an abiding sense of tragedy, which sustained him through temporary periods of joy.” – W.B. Yeats

Quick Note

An article of mine was posted over at Tabitha Magazine . The article is about self love and how difficult that can be.

If you would like to have a read, please feel free to check it out here.

Having care and consideration for yourself is very important. I always think about self care on an airplane during the safety demonstration. You are told to secure your air mask before helping anyone else.

Starting thinking about your life like that.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle